Nagging: The Misconception
I have heard different people, especially girls justify their own nagging. The common belief is that nagging is a way of showing their partner that they still love and care about him, else they would have given the silent treatment.
Nagging is said to mean ‘constantly harassing someone to do something.‘ It is also said to mean ‘to annoy or irritate a person with persistent fault finding‘
If you believe that nagging is a way of expressing or showing ones love, then going by your believe, let’s do a quick maths by substituting nagging with its meaning.This will give us ‘constantly harassing someone is a way of expressing or showing ones love‘ and that ‘love can be expressed by constantly annoying or irritating ones partner with persistent fault finding.‘
What do you make of the above sentences before and after substitution?
Does nagging still sound right to you?
You don’t have to fight it, whatever form of behavior you need to prove to people that you did what was right is a wrong behavior which you’re only looking for situational reasons and excuses to justify it as being right. Drop it now.
You can’t always/ persistently find fault in someone and attribute it to the love you have for them, that’s like a hunter saying he sets traps for the bush animals cos of his love for them, except if his love is in killing them. Nagging is as good as setting a death trap for your husband. If you’re a wife that nags, all you are showing your husband is his way to his early grave. His thought will be all about how to find rest in his own house with his own wife who is meant to love and understand him even when the whole world don’t. This might lead to two things, high blood pressure or keeping late nights and it will also affect his work and behavioral pattern, both in and outside the home.
What does the bible say about nagging?
Proverbs 21:9 (GNT) says “Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife.”
Proverbs 21:19 (GNT) says “Better to live out in the desert than with a nagging, complaining wife.”
The above verses simply states that nagging is not what a man should/can live with. Nagging irritates and frustrates both the one who is being nagged on and the one who is nagging. Continuous nagging have the potential of leading to hatred and the moment that comes in, getting rid of that which you hate or that which irritates you will be the next, then we all wonder what lead to domestic violence.
But can nagging mean love?
Here is what Love is “Love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs;” 1 Corinthians 13:5 (GNT)
Remember that in the definition of nagging, nagging is said to mean ‘constantly annoying or irritating a person with persistent fault finding‘ and here, we understand that ‘Love is not irritable‘. This means that whatever irritates is not love and since nagging irritates, it is not love.
What do you think about nagging and how do you think nagging can be stopped?
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