Teach Your Child

“Children just naturally do silly, careless things, but a good spanking will teach them how to behave.”

~ Proverbs 22:15 (GNT)

There are these set of jokes/ memes that have been around for a while now which a lot of us who grew up on this side of the continent can relate with.

Growing up in an African home‘ memes and jokes is just one of the various ways the African youths and even the early adults/ young at heart use to pass across a serious message to the rest of the world in a playful/ funny way.

If you have ever been a kid, then you will know that at a point in time, kids always want to be silly, they want to do something stupid that they feel/ think will make them smile or happy without thinking about its consequences nor the way it will affect others.

I have been there and you sure have. I might be able to hold back on stupid things but you might not, why? Because I grew up in a typical African home where I was taught that there is at least a complimentary punishment for any and all stupid, disrespectful and silly acts, which has set me on a path of thinking things through and stimulating what my action, words, or even inaction can bring about.

It is a common saying around here that ‘the madness in the heart of a kid can be removed by the use of a cane‘, this I agree to.

The confusion the developed world have about spanking is where to draw the line between correction and child abuse but this can easily be drawn out in an African home where a child is expected to be corrected in love and in truth. This is what the bible recommends and what all Christians are meant to adhere to (Proverbs 13:24).

I stand against child abuse of any form but I strongly recommend that a child be corrected every time he/she does something wrong. Spanking does not always have to be with the use of the cane and even though it is not yet a proven fact, it is widely said among kids of many generations that they most times prefer the use of the cane than being talked to by their parents cos the kind of spanking with words/ ‘talking to’ the African parent gives a child whenever he/she does sometime wrong is one that will never be forgotten in a hurry and one that is more painful than the cane.

Proverbs 22:6 (GNT) says; “Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it all their life.”

When parents refuse to teach their children how they should live, the movies, their friends, the environment and the internet will do that for them and I guess this explains why so many things are wrong in the world today, from our sexuality down to the way we treat and relate with others.

Think about this; who will you prefer to train your child? Will you train your child yourself? or will you leave it to his friends? His environment? The movies? Or the internet?

If you do not train your child, someone else will.

PS: Training a child is more than sending him/ her to school, it is about helping to shape his/ her behavior and his/ her view of the world. Remember that the bible says;

  If you don’t punish your children, you don’t love them. If you do love them, you will correct them.” ~ Proverbs 13:24 (GNT)